Therapy can help individuals, couples, and families who are having difficulties with addictions, alcoholism, violence, abuse, infidelity, strong feelings, their healthy expression, getting along, accepting each other, handling and resolving conflicts, and general parenting and other issues.
There is no shame in seeking therapy; in fact, there is shame in not seeking therapy when it is needed.
When someone has a broken leg, they see an orthopedic doctor. Families that have something broken are well-advised to see a family therapist.
Therapy is all about understanding one’s feelings, needs, and thoughts as well as learning about how all human beings’ feelings affect our thoughts and how our thoughts affect our feelings.
Once we better understand how feelings and thoughts affect each other, observe how we personally respond to our own thoughts and feelings as well as those of others, and consider some new ways of handling our feelings and thoughts — we are better able to make improvements in our lives that serve us well.
In therapy, we can also learn about defense mechanisms and how all human beings use these at different developmental phases in our lives. Being aware of how we use or have used defense mechanisms can help us lead healthier and happier lives.
Many people are helped by therapy every single day. Coaching can also help people as can learning Emotional Intelligence and NVC (non-violent communication) skills.
NVC teaches that we can all get our needs met in ways that do not prevent anyone else from getting their needs met.
The more self-awareness we have, the healthier and happier we are and the healthier and better our interpersonal relationships are.
Many families have deeply-rooted issues around religion, gender norms, race, issues of power or “pecking order”, the expression of feelings, rituals such as weddings or funerals, sexuality, class, education, money, accomplishment, parenting deficiencies, various forms of abuse, alcoholism, addiction, race, individualty vs conforming to family norms, and many other issues.
There is a saying: “Pass it back or pass it forward”. If we do not address family issues that were not particularly healthy, they can and likely will affect all aspects of our lives. Looking back at parenting and how a family operates is not about blaming, but about understanding how one has been affected. Certainly if there was abuse of any kind, then blame is justified.
Understanding, however, is the goal. Avoid passing family problems forward in the form of individual problems by meeting those issues head on with a qualified therapist so they are not passed on in your own life and/or to future generations.
Do not stubbornly or fearfully embrace ignorance; embrace knowledge and understanding.